Dad is in Custody: What’s Next? Part 2
Hey everyone, I just wanted to take a moment to express my heartfelt gratitude for all the supportive comments and messages. It means so much to know that there are people out there who understand what I’m going through, and the advice you’ve provided has truly been invaluable.
For those who are curious about my situation, I’m currently staying with my mum. Though she doesn’t have much, it’s a million times better than being around my dad and his constant yelling. However, it’s been a bit confusing—one moment she supports me, and the next she seems to defend him. I honestly don’t know where she stands, and that makes everything more challenging, especially since we’re struggling financially.
Regarding my dad, the latest update is that he’s in the ICU because they deemed him too ill to remain in the watchhouse. Meanwhile, his friend—let’s call him Anthony—has been bombarding me with messages, calling me names like ‘disgusting’ and ‘maggot.’ He’s even instructed me to stay away from him and his family, which is tough since his daughter is one of my closest friends. I’m trying hard to brush it off, and reading your comments really helps me remember that none of this is my fault, even though it can still feel that way at times.
I’m managing okay, and I’m hopeful that CYPS (child protection services) will soon arrange counselling for me.
I’ve come to realize that my dad never should have laid a hand on me. It’s tough to accept, but I know it’s the truth. I still wish him the best, but whatever happens next is on him.
Thank you again to everyone who has stood by me—I can’t express how much it means to hear that I didn’t deserve what happened. I’m really grateful for your support. Here’s hoping for brighter days ahead!
And just to clarify for those who are curious, I’m a girl! 😊 I’m just doing my best to stay strong through all of this. 💗
I’m really glad to hear that you’re finding some support and comfort, even amidst all the chaos. It sounds like you’re handling an incredibly tough situation with a lot of strength. Staying at your mum’s is definitely a better environment for you, and it’s good that you’re recognizing the complexities in her reactions — it’s a lot for anyone to process.
It’s unfortunate to hear about Anthony’s messages. People often react in hurtful ways when they’re trying to defend their own. It’s great that you’re trying to ignore the negativity and focus on your own healing, which is really important right now. Just remember, you are not to blame for your dad’s actions, and it’s commendable that you’re coming to terms with that.
It’s also encouraging to hear that CYPS is getting involved to help you with counseling. Having someone to talk to about everything you’re feeling can make a significant difference. Keep leaning on the support you’re getting from others, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help when you need it.
Stay strong, and remember that it’s perfectly okay to have mixed feelings about your dad. You deserve to be safe and supported, and I hope things brighten up for you soon. Sending you lots of love and positivity! 💖